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Handling Chronic Pain When Your Medical Team Fails You. Easy actionable tips to help you manage your chronic pain.

Handling Chronic Pain When Your Medical Team Fails You

Handling Chronic Pain When Your Medical Team Fails You. Easy actionable steps to help you manage your chronic pain. www.paintedteacup.comToday we have a awesome guest post which talks about Mary’s experience living with chronic illness and what she has done when her medical team has failed her. She has some great tips to help you if you are in the same situation (which I hope you are not)! You can learn more about Mary but checking out her blog Charmed Chicken and you can also learn about her virtual assistant services!

Let’s turn it over to Mary!

Handling Chronic Pain When Your Medical Team Fails You

I would never advise dealing with chronic pain, or any medical condition, without a medical team. But as someone with Fibromyalgia, I can attest to the fact that there are times when your doctors don’t help. I ran into this because of the very rural area in which I live. My doctor—one of the few who even would treat fibromyalgia—simply reached the end of what she could try. There was nothing else and since my lab work was fine, she told me my pain was “all in my head”. My doctor had failed me.

True, I could travel to the next largest town (about 2 hours away) and try to find another doctor, but I also knew that there were things that I could do as well. This is how I handle my chronic pain without medical intervention.

How I Handle My Chronic Pain Without Medical Intervention

First, I listen to my body, completely and totally. When I am hurting, I stop and ask what’s happening at the moment. Generally I can pinpoint either a source of stress or another factor that is causing the pain. I don’t have an official pain journal, but rather catalog the pain causes in my mind. I do recommend writing down the pain or keeping a diary or journal if you’re just getting to know your body and how it feels.

Next, I vigorously work to eliminate those things that cause me pain. If I feel myself getting stressed or frustrated, I stop. This may mean walking away from a place or a task to do something else. I also protect my personal time and my space. My health—staying pain free—is my utmost priority.

The best thing I can do to remain pain-free is to do the things I enjoy. This includes my technical virtual assistant work and work around my homestead.

I take joy in the things I can do. I don’t give up, and I do move forward with the tasks that I can do. Even when I need to postpone or change the way I work on big projects, I do. Because the biggest way to ease my chronic pain is to stay focused on what I can do, and more importantly on what brings me joy.

In the end, there is acceptance for surrender to the moment is what eases the pain. Not giving up—not far from it—choosing to save my energy for those things that bring me joy. I seek joy and when I do, the pain decreases. The key to managing chronic pain without a doctor isn’t to fight it, but instead to know the pain like a friend, to be able to dialogue with it, and to work with it—not against.

Should things change, I will no doubt need to return to modern medicine. For now, I am doing better with than I have with the pain meds, and I am looking forward to the plans I have.

What has been your experience with chronic pain and the medical system?

Guest Bio:

Mary lives on her Ozark homestead with her husband, her mom, and a menagerie of animals including horses, cats, and her mixed flock of chickens, ducks, and geese. She loves the idea of growing and raising her own food and when she’s not tending her livestock or enjoying the beautiful scenery, she’s in her office cabin working as a virtual assistant to authors and entrepreneurs. Learn about her homestead on her blog called Charmed Chicken and her virtual assistant work!

You can also follow Mary on: Facebook (for the blog) | Twitter | Facebook (virtual assistant services)



22 thoughts on “Handling Chronic Pain When Your Medical Team Fails You”

  1. Oh wow, this is going to be such a help to so many people. I am sending it to my mom who suffers from chronic pain.

  2. I have never suffered from chronic pain, but I have friends who do. I totally agree with staying in tune with your own body, regardless of what the doctors say. They have alot of wisdom, but they aren’t experiencing it firsthand.

  3. It takes so much energy to deal with chronic pain and the stress it can take on a marriage – on any relationships for that matter. I am glad that you are finding ways that work for you and it sounds like you are doing a great job! Good luck moving forward – I hope you are able to continue to find workable solutions and a good medical team.

  4. I hate that your medical team failed you and I especially hate to hear things like, “It’s all in your head.” I’m so glad you are learning to listen to your body and finding ways to cope. Sounds like you are headed in the right direction.

  5. Such great advice. I agree that eliminating the things that might be causing it or making it worse is so important. I don’t suffer from chronic pain, but I’m sure that can’t help.

  6. My mother has fibromyalgia. I will have to share this with her. I know she doesn’t follow all these so it would be good for her.

  7. I can’t imagine the frustration when a doctor doesn’t listen to what a patient says and needs. Chronic pain is hard enough and the doctor is supposed to be the one person on your side!

  8. I have Lupus and I try to treat it by going more of the holistic route. My choices with ‘western medicine’ are a daily pill (which makes me sick to my stomach) or steroid treatments (no thank you) so I try to watch my foods, scale back on stress, listen to my body and occasionally I take bee pollen or daily turmeric, daily multi vitamin and plenty of anti-oxidants, it’s a constant ebb and flow to find the right balance.

  9. I remember waking up one morning and my foot was in so much pain I thought it was broken. I went to the doctor and got an x-ray and he said everything looked fine. I then went to a foot doctor who then he just shot my foot with medicine. That was painful. Then I got some shoe insole for Plantar fasciitis as a last hope and it worked. My pain slowly went away with the insoles and aleve gels. It sucks when doctor can’t straight up tell you what is wrong. I am glad you found other things that worked for you in the meantime.

  10. Its definitely a good idea to listen to your body and not ignore it. I actually look up holistic ideas but the virtual assistant idea could be another alternative too!

  11. These tips are great and I’m so glad they are working for you. I have to say not having a medical team onside, and trying to manage things on your own can be pretty dangerous for many chronic illnesses that feature chronic pain. I don’t like working with the medical system at all, and prefer to manage on my own until I absolutely cannot – but going it on my own has wound me up in serious trouble with lengthy hospital stays as a result. Sadly, when you aren’t getting support from your dr’s, you’re not really inspired to spend the time, energy or money to keep seeing them. Kinda a vicious circle really 🙁

  12. At present my fibro pain is quite unbearable and quite frankly my Dr. who is great is just stumped.I do listen to my body but at present my muscles have gone on vacation and I can’t even do the thing I love which is sewing. Sometimes it just beats me down, but I keep on keeping on hoping that some very smart person can come up with more help for all of us who suffer this life taking syndrome,blessings to all other sufferers.

  13. Wow. She actually told you it was all in your head. How devastating. I am so sorry to hear that. Thank you for sharing your wellness strategies. No one has been able to help me much either. We don’t even know what I have.


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