This post is quite personal for me. Sharing my struggles is not something I usually do. But, since we are all struggling with something, I thought I would share what I do when I feel like I am losing control.
We have all had those moments, or days, or weeks, or months or years! The times when you feel hopeless and helpless. You feel as if you are doing everything you can to move forward but no matter what you try, you either continue to feel stuck, and/or things just continue in a downward spiral.
I was inspired to write this post as I feel like I am currently spiraling and losing control, in regards to some health concerns I have been experiencing. Not having answers on top of feeling horrible can make each day feel pretty daunting and scary. When you are feeling down, helpless and as if you are losing control, you have to do something or else you will get emotionally bogged down quite quickly.
I do not have all the answers, but here is my advice for dealing with life when you feel like you are losing control (and some inspirational quotes):
1) Try and turn your thoughts around as much as possible. I often think “what could possibly change that would make tomorrow better”. I find it incredibly easy to have this mindset especially when I am not feeling well and my body is not cooperating with me. I have found it helpful to change this thought, even if only slightly. Now I think “well hey, at least it probably can’t get much worse”. I know that doesn’t sound positive but I have found this small mindset shift to be helpful and a find it helps me feel somewhat in control. It also adds a little humour… more on that in a moment. You are a fighter, so keep fighting!
2) Let your supports in. Sometimes we don’t want to let others know what we are going through. We don’t want to burden others with our problems; I get that, I have this mindset often. Now take a minute, think of someone you really care about. If they were struggling would you want to know? Would you feel that knowing their problem is a burden on your life? Would you be annoyed by their moment of weakness? Personally I wouldn’t, I would want to know, in fact I’d be pretty mad if I didn’t. I am so thankful for my parents and siblings (both natural and those through marriage), grandparents, best friends and co-workers. Most of all I am thankful for my number one supporter, my husband, who has been by my side through all the ups and downs. You don’t have to tell everyone everything, heck you don’t have to tell them anything at all, but if you need them, then let them in. I guarantee you both will be happy you did.
3) Humour is key. I admit, this humour is sometimes slightly twisted and dripping in sarcasm. But hey, if it works, go with it. You have to be able to laugh at yourself and laugh with those in your life. What you are going through can be serious, so don’t add to the pressure, don’t take yourself or others too seriously.
4) Remember you are stronger than you believe. Is this the first time you have faced hardship, disappointment, or defeat? Probably not. Think of all the battles you have fought in your life. Whether you feel like it or not right now, you are strong, you are a fighter, and eventually, things will become more manageable!
5) Stop beating yourself up. Yes we all want to be doing more than we are now. We are frustrated and annoyed and feel like our body or mind is turning on us. Being hard on yourself isn’t going to change the situation and isn’t going to improve your day. So just stop!
6. Continue to be stubborn, don’t give up. It is important to realize that there is a difference between beating yourself up and giving up. You are a fighter, remember?!? Don’t lose that fight, drive, and stubbornness. You have overcome hard times in the past, and you will do so again! I think this quote sums it up perfectly!
7) Look for inspiration. I turn to Pinterest often and look under quotes. You can search for whatever you need, happy, funny, sad, inspirational, motivational or whatever you may need at that moment. Here is my Pinterest Quote Board. Feel free to pin any quotes you see here to your quote board.
8) Have a good cry when you need one! You need to get your emotions out, and sometimes a good cry is exactly what you need! Don’t be afraid to shed a few tears but remember:
9) Move around. Go sit outside or move to a different room in your home if you are unable to get outside. Sometimes a change of scenery is exactly what we need. Now although she is not my favourite artist, it is pretty hard to hear “Shake it Off” and not want to wiggle around to the catchy tune. If you are like me you will be mad at yourself after for liking it, but that’s ok!
10) Use your creativity. Write how you are feeling. Or draw. Or paint. Or sing. Whatever creative activity you enjoy, try it out. It may help you to let go of emotions that you didn’t even realize you had!
11) Finally, remember:
What do you do when you feel like you are losing control? Let me know by commenting below 🙂